Also, the stamp text is very true for me. I never went into therapy and never took any anti-depressives (lucky me, chemical waste >_< ). I got out of that black pit all by myself (sure, took me long enough, but hey, here I am )
I hope that there are more people out there that managed to fight their way out. (With or without any help, doesn't really matter. As long as you're out and staying out, that's the most important!)
I just want to make it extra clear: I do not think that needing drugs or therapy is bad, or that someone is better for doing it without. The important thing here is overcoming depression, the means don't matter.
If you are depressed and you need help, get help. There is no shame at all in that There is only the pride at the end when you look back and can go "HAH I beat you!" How you get there doesn't matter.
Also, a little tip for people still fighting: Try some freshly rasped ginger root tea (add honey and some normal tea for the flavour as the ginger is spicy). It works great to soothe depressions and anxiety attacks. Sure, it's not permanent, but it might help
Just remember to use it in combi with anything else you're doing to fight it as every little bit helps <3
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Maybe killing my self, but i prefer living/exist than doest exist..
I wish i can beat that
It seems to run in the family so I guess I'm quite lucky to have escaped it too o__o
*hug* just don't ever give up, and try to set goals for yourself, even little things, for tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and a few years from now. Make sure you have things to look forward too. Keeping a journal where you write down all the good stuff can help too. When you feel very down, you can take that and read it
(if you wish to stay in contact with me, I suggest sending me direct messages via wattpad, as I barely use dA anymore: www.wattpad.com/shimaira )
i had no idea what was causing my depression until i did some research and it turns out that ive been consuming too much caffeine, which triggered my anxiety and eventually led to this. now im on a caffeine-free diet along with omega-3 supplements. ive also been reading about famous people who struggle with mental illness and went on to live successful lives, which gave me hope. I also exercise (according to experts, its as effective as medication).
even now, im slowly becoming more open about. keeping it to myself also worsened it.
But yeah, congratulations on beating it on your own.
And yes, exercising helps as it releases "happy hormones"
It's good that you're starting to become more open about it, and I hope that soon you will be free of it
Thanks again for sharing <3
And no worries, everything is going great now no complaints <3
It's the sad truth... And the thing is: it's scary! Most people don't even realise they don't want to be helped, because it's often a subconscious choice. And even if 99% wants to get better, that 1% can be enough to stop it. Even if that 1% is just the fear of something new... (at least that's how I experienced it)
I also feel your pain when it comes to depressed people around me. I always try to help but in the past I put so much energy into this it dragged me down aswell. Nowadays I know my bounderies a lot better and I'm learning when there is simply no use. You can keep throwing ropes into a well but if the person down there doesn't want to grab onto it... All you can do it try to talk to them and hope they will see the "light" sort of speak
And yes, I like being happy I can have bad stuff happen in a day and still be able to just smile and enjoy the fact that I'm alive. I appreciate the smaller things in life much more too now <3 It's great really Sure, I have my lows every once in a while, but they don't last that long or leave an "imprint" like they used to. They just come, AND GO I can still remember what it was like to have those dark thoughts, and for some reason I sometimes feel this weird sense of "homesickness" to those old times... Luckily I'm smart enough to not want to go back and just stare at it from a distance
But I know, somewhere deep inside I know... If I really wanted to go back I could. (Luckily I don't!)
I'm glad your suicide remained an attempt and that it actually helped you from not doing it again. I cna understand that it would have left scars, and I hope they will heal over time
If you ever need to talk or vent about something, feel free to send me a note I don't check dA daily though so don't feel ignored if I don't reply too soon
And if you ever feel like it's going very bad and that you need more help than family and friends can give, don't be afraid to get professional help as there is no shame in it (whatever it takes to help get you better you should try imo) <3 Its not how you get better, its the getting better that's important
I hope you'll be able to remain out of the pit, stay strong!
Your friends dont understand that you want to have some alone-time too? O_o I cant even imagine that
I think I just came to terms with the fact that from the dozens of "friends" (and hundreds of people I know according to my FB list) only a handful are real friends, and sometimes I even doubt I can get to 3 (and that is including my husband). Sadly a lot of people only care about you aslong as you can do something for them, even if its just listening to their problems, when their life improves you're suddenly no longer needed and they just go silent, only to reappear later on when it all went to hell again and they need a shoulder to cry on (and me wanting to be a good friend will be there, waiting for them only thing is that I dont realise that some of them will do the same for me if I would only show that I needed them... (found that out recently)
Perhaps you have more friends that really care for you too than you think you just havent let them in.
They don't seem to notice much about me, even when my personality changes on days i'm feeling down. They don't ask me if i'm alright unless i go up to them and ask them for a hug or something, they only realise if they see any cuts or something on me or draw something on a piece of paper, that's it yet i learnt to notice when they're being slightly distant or tell that they're upset because if i don't they say i'm a bad friend for only noticing when it's too late. I think it's because of this happening quite a lot that i decided to grow apart from people. Ohh well, i guess try and do what i can that makes me happier (even if it's only temporary)
And its weird, I had the same... Though I must say I also pretended to be fine, I wore a mask sortasay. Still I wanted people to see through that mask, like some sort of test I suppose... I didnt want to make it too obvious, I wanted to see who really cared about me to notice the "small" things... And same as you, I did notice when something was wrong with them... But maybe thats because we mirror our own desires.
Personally, I think that if people call you a bad friend because of that yet they dont notice your issues they are the bad friend...
And yeah, you should try to focus on the positive things If theres one thing I noticed looking back on my "darker years" it was that I always thought everything was bad and negative and nothing good happened... Yet in reality after the veil of depression was lifted, it wasnt all that bad... There were lots of good things beside the bad, if not a whole lot more... I just couldnt see it then, luckily I do now I hope you will too <3
Try not to cut yourself Not only can you hurt yourself more than intended, once you get "better" I doubt you'll be happy with those scars. I'm very relieved that I was always too chicken to cause any self-harm, atleast now the only scars I have are those on the inside (and therefore mine alone to see and share if I want to)
If all else fails, I suggest talking to a doctor of some kind; better than ending up in a hospital because you cut too deep
Also, if I may give you one last piece of advice: when you're down or worse, try drinking tea with scrapings of fresh ginger root in it it worked wonders for my dad (against depression and anxiety attacks)
And I'm also very relieved that even when you cut yourself its not often (I know people who did it way too often (though in my head even 1x would be too much but you get my point )
Try not to let people like that get to you, if people compare you to other people they're doing something wrong because you are you and they are themselves, if everyone was alike it would be a very boring world. If they cant accept you for who you are thats their loss.
I used to cut, but then I stopped. I was close to committing suicide, but that same day I was about to do it, I got a letter from my sister. She found out I was self harming and that I was hurting inside. She gave me hope. I decided to not give up and to keep on going. I am close to overcoming my depression.
Sadly, I still have to take medicine. (Which I hate very much because the pills are hard to swallow. )
I'm glad to hear that you stopped cutting and that your sister was able to give you hope <3 I hope that the people close to you will continue to do that I also hope that you will be free of depression someday soon, and if the medicine (even though you hate it) can help you with that, please continue to use them as getting rid of the depression is what important (and you could always ask your doctor if there are any other variants of your medicine that are maybe easier to take )
Good luck hun, keep fighting!
Lovely stamp - love the color!
And I agree, there's no shame at all at needing a little help, in a way it's even a lot braver to actually reach out instead of fighting all alone.
I hope you'll be able to beat it too one day because in the end that's the thing that counts
I haven't used any medical treatment/therapy. One day, I might use this, but until then, I have a lot more to go through.
And if it gets really rough, don't be shy to ask for (prof) help. Whatever can make you help beat this thing you should use it. It's not how you get better, it's the getting better part that matters most (just don't do anything you might regret later of course)